My Love

Photo taken by Jansson Photography

This week’s Monday Listicles theme is love. Appropriate, apt, fun, and easy. I decided to use this as an opportunity to make a list of all the reasons why, after twelve years of marriage, I am still ridiculously in love with Elijah.

1. He still makes me laugh. A lot. Mostly at him, which he never seems to mind, but not just that. No matter how much I have mocked his sense of humor, he has never stopped trying to make me laugh or smile. I find this adorable.

2. He may not excel at anticipating what I want or need, he’s a terrible mind reader, but he will complete a honey-do list without complaint. Even if it means staying up late to do a mess of work after putting the kids to bed on a weeknight. If I write it down, it will always get done.

3. He never fails to have a card and gift laying out for me when I get up on special days. And he doesn’t mind that I suck at doing stuff like that. Seriously, the man is better at Valentine’s and anniversaries than I am. (I would feel bad, but I’m better at making babies so I think we’re even.)

4. Speaking of our babies, Elijah is a wonderful father. I think he actually enjoys playing with his kids. He’s the outdoor parent, the indoor jungle gym, the parent who wants to go and do. I’m the one who doesn’t want to get out of my pajamas.

5. He pulls his own weight. It’s a struggle to keep things up with both of us working and my odd hours. Elijah is more than willing to do what needs to be done, which is better than me because taking out the trash is man’s work!

6. He encourages me to do things that I love. Whether it’s getting away with friends, going back to school, or making time for long runs, he has always been supportive of the things I need to do in order to keep sane.

7. He never complains about how much I spend. Ever. He may not understand why cutting and/or dyeing two inches of hair can cost up to $200, but he doesn’t complain. He might think that the kids have enough outfits for the next six years, but he’d never suggest I stop going to Gymboree. He has never made me feel like I don’t have the right to spend our money in whatever way I see fit.

8. He cooks. I mean, really cooks. Not in the way that I cook, which is just to keep us from starving. This man makes meals, and desserts, and he enjoys it. One Valentine’s Day he made me a rack of lamb! He learned how to make baked fudge since I love it so much. He feeds me delicious food and enjoys making it almost as much as I enjoy eating it. Almost.

9. He encourages me to sleep. This may sound bizarre, but there are a lot of days that I don’t want to sleep. I hate spending an entire weekend day in bed because I worked the night before. But he realizes how important sleep is to my mental and physical health and he nags me if I get up too early. He’ll take the kids out so I have nothing to stay up for. He sends me to bed early and lets me sleep in, even if it means he never gets to. And as far as I’m concerned sleep = love.

10. He reads my blog. He doesn’t comment, or question what I’ve written. He is supportive and encouraging in his silence. He’ll tell me if he enjoyed something, but I never worry about him passing judgement on anything I’ve put here. He respects this space and has never made me feel like I should censor myself. Plus, he’s saved me a ton of work this Valentine’s Day by stopping by to read this for himself! Happy Valentine’s Day, hon!

So there you have it. Ten, long winded reasons for why I’m still with the man I married all those years ago. 

90 Responses to My Love
  1. Greta
    February 12, 2012 | 9:42 pm

    Aw! This is so sweet. You two were obviously made for each other. What a good guy.

    And also, can you please pass along to my hubs that taking out the trash is man's work? He didn't get the memo.

  2. Greta
    February 12, 2012 | 9:42 pm

    Aw! This is so sweet. You two were obviously made for each other. What a good guy.

    And also, can you please pass along to my hubs that taking out the trash is man's work? He didn't get the memo.

  3. Life As Wife
    February 12, 2012 | 10:00 pm

    #8? Hands down the best part about my hubby!! I cook just to save us from starving too!

  4. Life As Wife
    February 12, 2012 | 10:00 pm

    #8? Hands down the best part about my hubby!! I cook just to save us from starving too!

  5. Stasha
    February 12, 2012 | 10:03 pm

    YOu two, so so sweet. These are wonderful reasons to love a man, sure. But the red one piece PJ's is the icing on the cake 🙂 Happy Valentine's you two!

  6. Stasha
    February 12, 2012 | 10:03 pm

    YOu two, so so sweet. These are wonderful reasons to love a man, sure. But the red one piece PJ's is the icing on the cake 🙂 Happy Valentine's you two!

  7. Amanda
    February 12, 2012 | 11:19 pm

    Sounds like a pretty great guy you got there.  Mine is quite similar in many ways – lucky us!

  8. Amanda
    February 12, 2012 | 11:19 pm

    Sounds like a pretty great guy you got there.  Mine is quite similar in many ways – lucky us!

  9. Lisa @ Schwartz Chronicles
    February 12, 2012 | 11:27 pm

    He remembers special days and supports your blog.  Sounds like a keeper to me.

  10. Lisa @ Schwartz Chronicles
    February 12, 2012 | 11:27 pm

    He remembers special days and supports your blog.  Sounds like a keeper to me.

  11. Anna
    February 12, 2012 | 11:40 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this, your husband sounds wonderful and this is a perfect Valentine for him 🙂 #9 and #10  – love it!

  12. Anna
    February 12, 2012 | 11:40 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this, your husband sounds wonderful and this is a perfect Valentine for him 🙂 #9 and #10  – love it!

  13. XLMIC
    February 13, 2012 | 12:13 am

    What a phenomenal man! You are one super lucky chica 🙂

  14. XLMIC
    February 13, 2012 | 12:13 am

    What a phenomenal man! You are one super lucky chica 🙂

  15. Cookie's Mom
    February 13, 2012 | 8:14 am

    Your husband sounds amazing… and a lot like mine, actually. I identified with every one of these. Love that they keep trying to tell us the corny jokes, even though we've heard them all so many times! Happy hearts day!

  16. Cookie's Mom
    February 13, 2012 | 8:14 am

    Your husband sounds amazing… and a lot like mine, actually. I identified with every one of these. Love that they keep trying to tell us the corny jokes, even though we've heard them all so many times! Happy hearts day!

  17. Stacey
    February 13, 2012 | 9:24 am

    I LOVE #3! My husband is better than me too. One year, I even forgot our anniversary! Happy Valentine's day to you both.

  18. Stacey
    February 13, 2012 | 9:24 am

    I LOVE #3! My husband is better than me too. One year, I even forgot our anniversary! Happy Valentine's day to you both.

  19. Bridget
    February 13, 2012 | 9:50 am

    Sounds like you got the pick of the litter! You deserve it:)

  20. Bridget
    February 13, 2012 | 9:50 am

    Sounds like you got the pick of the litter! You deserve it:)

  21. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:21 pm

    He really is just perfect for me. Trash and lawn work. I don't do outdoor man's work. He even empties the diaper genie!

  22. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:21 pm

    He really is just perfect for me. Trash and lawn work. I don't do outdoor man's work. He even empties the diaper genie!

  23. Ado
    February 13, 2012 | 12:23 pm

    Are you KIDDING about no. 2??? Wow. Just – how thoughtful, he is. So sweet. I love that photo too.

  24. Ado
    February 13, 2012 | 12:23 pm

    Are you KIDDING about no. 2??? Wow. Just – how thoughtful, he is. So sweet. I love that photo too.

  25. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:23 pm

    Isn't it great to have a man who knows his way around the kitchen?

  26. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:23 pm

    Isn't it great to have a man who knows his way around the kitchen?

  27. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:24 pm

    I cannot believe he didn't leave me after posting those pictures! He really is always trying to make me laugh.

  28. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:24 pm

    I cannot believe he didn't leave me after posting those pictures! He really is always trying to make me laugh.

  29. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:26 pm

    He really is great, and I definitely don't tell him that often enough. I'm glad yours is just as good!

  30. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:26 pm

    He really is great, and I definitely don't tell him that often enough. I'm glad yours is just as good!

  31. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:27 pm

    Yeah, I think we've got a few more years left in us!

  32. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:27 pm

    Yeah, I think we've got a few more years left in us!

  33. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:28 pm

    I'm so glad you liked it! And yes, him letting me sleep is one of the best things about him.

  34. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:28 pm

    I'm so glad you liked it! And yes, him letting me sleep is one of the best things about him.

  35. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:29 pm

    Thank you! I think so too.

  36. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:29 pm

    Thank you! I think so too.

  37. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:30 pm

    Elijah always says that he'll keep telling a joke until I laugh at it. He thinks that if I don't find something funny it's because I just don't “get it.”

  38. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:30 pm

    Elijah always says that he'll keep telling a joke until I laugh at it. He thinks that if I don't find something funny it's because I just don't “get it.”

  39. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:32 pm

    Thank you! #3 is a big one for me because I really LOVE getting presents, but never seem to do the holidays as good as he does! He really doesn't seem to mind.

  40. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:32 pm

    Thank you! #3 is a big one for me because I really LOVE getting presents, but never seem to do the holidays as good as he does! He really doesn't seem to mind.

  41. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:32 pm

    Thank you! I think he's pretty great. 🙂

  42. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 12:32 pm

    Thank you! I think he's pretty great. 🙂

  43. Katie E
    February 13, 2012 | 1:14 pm

    He sounds like a wonderful man. #9 is an important one that is often overlooked, I think. My husband can get me to sleep when I'm certain there's no way I can get to sleep. And it does make a difference in how I feel overall. And we're both terrible about completely forgetting our anniversary!

  44. Katie E
    February 13, 2012 | 1:14 pm

    He sounds like a wonderful man. #9 is an important one that is often overlooked, I think. My husband can get me to sleep when I'm certain there's no way I can get to sleep. And it does make a difference in how I feel overall. And we're both terrible about completely forgetting our anniversary!

  45. Ally
    February 13, 2012 | 1:14 pm

    He's a keeper for sure! You sound well matched 🙂

  46. Ally
    February 13, 2012 | 1:14 pm

    He's a keeper for sure! You sound well matched 🙂

  47. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 1:28 pm

    I work nigh shifts, so sleep is so important to me. I often feel guilty about laying in bed all day, but he encourages it, which helps. He says it because I'm a monster if I don't get enough sleep, I say it's because he loves me!

  48. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 1:28 pm

    I work nigh shifts, so sleep is so important to me. I often feel guilty about laying in bed all day, but he encourages it, which helps. He says it because I'm a monster if I don't get enough sleep, I say it's because he loves me!

  49. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 1:28 pm

    Thanks for stopping by! I think we're pretty well matched. Might as well keep him around a bit longer. 🙂

  50. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 1:28 pm

    Thanks for stopping by! I think we're pretty well matched. Might as well keep him around a bit longer. 🙂

  51. christina
    February 13, 2012 | 2:54 pm

    what an incredibly sweet listicle. sincerely. sounds like you guys will have a great Valentine's day!

  52. christina
    February 13, 2012 | 2:54 pm

    what an incredibly sweet listicle. sincerely. sounds like you guys will have a great Valentine's day!

  53. jentos23
    February 13, 2012 | 3:11 pm

    Awww, this is so sweet!! What a wonderful tribute. So glad to hear he will actually read this! He sounds like a real keeper 🙂 

  54. jentos23
    February 13, 2012 | 3:11 pm

    Awww, this is so sweet!! What a wonderful tribute. So glad to hear he will actually read this! He sounds like a real keeper 🙂 

  55. Jackie
    February 13, 2012 | 3:37 pm

    Sounds like he's a keeper- between cooking and encouraging you to sleep! Wowser!

  56. Jackie
    February 13, 2012 | 3:37 pm

    Sounds like he's a keeper- between cooking and encouraging you to sleep! Wowser!

  57. Kristin
    February 13, 2012 | 4:52 pm

    You have a stellar partner. I wish many more happy years.

  58. Kristin
    February 13, 2012 | 4:52 pm

    You have a stellar partner. I wish many more happy years.

  59. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:14 pm

    Thank you. He's truly my better half.

  60. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:14 pm

    Thank you. He's truly my better half.

  61. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:14 pm

    I know, right? Our daughter will have a much different list on important qualities in a husband then I had!

  62. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:14 pm

    I know, right? Our daughter will have a much different list on important qualities in a husband then I had!

  63. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:15 pm

    Thank you. He really is wonderful, and he does read my blog, he just rarely says anything about it.

  64. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:15 pm

    Thank you. He really is wonderful, and he does read my blog, he just rarely says anything about it.

  65. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:15 pm

    Thank you. Unfortunately, I work tomorrow, but it's ok. We're good at celebrating on odd days!

  66. Miss Marina Star
    February 13, 2012 | 6:15 pm

    Thank you. Unfortunately, I work tomorrow, but it's ok. We're good at celebrating on odd days!

  67. paul
    February 13, 2012 | 8:02 pm

    Rack of lamb and fudge. What a great tribute to the one you love. Have a happy Valentines day

  68. paul
    February 13, 2012 | 8:02 pm

    Rack of lamb and fudge. What a great tribute to the one you love. Have a happy Valentines day

  69. Lenore Diane
    February 13, 2012 | 8:23 pm

    A wonderful tribute to a wonderful sounding husband. Great post!

  70. Lenore Diane
    February 13, 2012 | 8:23 pm

    A wonderful tribute to a wonderful sounding husband. Great post!

  71. Juliecgardner
    February 13, 2012 | 8:26 pm

    Your list is romantic, sweet, loving, and real. 
    But here's my absolutely favorite part:”(I would feel bad, but I'm better at making babies so I think we're even.)”Cheers to that, lady. We'll always have the baby-making, right?Happy Valentine's Day to you and your love. Elijah's a lucky guy. 

  72. Juliecgardner
    February 13, 2012 | 8:26 pm

    Your list is romantic, sweet, loving, and real. 
    But here's my absolutely favorite part:”(I would feel bad, but I'm better at making babies so I think we're even.)”Cheers to that, lady. We'll always have the baby-making, right?Happy Valentine's Day to you and your love. Elijah's a lucky guy. 

  73. Bruna
    February 13, 2012 | 8:54 pm

    This was so nice and I think it's wonderful that he reads your blog. Any many who encourages and lets you sleep is a keeper! You are one lucky lady. A cook even!

  74. Bruna
    February 13, 2012 | 8:54 pm

    This was so nice and I think it's wonderful that he reads your blog. Any many who encourages and lets you sleep is a keeper! You are one lucky lady. A cook even!

  75. Audrey
    February 13, 2012 | 9:10 pm

    Great list! And its wonderful that he reads your blog!

  76. Audrey
    February 13, 2012 | 9:10 pm

    Great list! And its wonderful that he reads your blog!

  77. Cynthia Meents
    February 14, 2012 | 12:06 am

    He sounds like a sweetheart. It's great that you appreciate the honey do list instead of harping on the lack of mind reading. Sounds like you're a great couple.

  78. Cynthia Meents
    February 14, 2012 | 12:06 am

    He sounds like a sweetheart. It's great that you appreciate the honey do list instead of harping on the lack of mind reading. Sounds like you're a great couple.

  79. shygirl
    February 14, 2012 | 10:04 am

    Hi! I just wanted to say that your husband is one HUNK of a guy. That is all.

  80. shygirl
    February 14, 2012 | 10:04 am

    Hi! I just wanted to say that your husband is one HUNK of a guy. That is all.

  81. jacqui
    February 14, 2012 | 11:52 am

    I can definitely see why you're still madly in love with him! And I suspect there are a bunch of reasons why he's still madly in love with you too. Awesome list!

  82. jacqui
    February 14, 2012 | 11:52 am

    I can definitely see why you're still madly in love with him! And I suspect there are a bunch of reasons why he's still madly in love with you too. Awesome list!

  83. Emily
    February 14, 2012 | 7:27 pm

    I love your list. I can relate to two things. First, my husbands' sense of humor is SO silly and I mock him all the time and he still doesn't change. And second, he reads my blog and is so supportive too. I'm glad you found yourself such a catch!

  84. Emily
    February 14, 2012 | 7:27 pm

    I love your list. I can relate to two things. First, my husbands' sense of humor is SO silly and I mock him all the time and he still doesn't change. And second, he reads my blog and is so supportive too. I'm glad you found yourself such a catch!

  85. Janice
    February 15, 2012 | 12:49 pm

    Aww, what a sweet honey he is. How very lucky you are! And I'm totally sure he is all these things because he knows how very lucky HE is for having you too!

  86. Janice
    February 15, 2012 | 12:49 pm

    Aww, what a sweet honey he is. How very lucky you are! And I'm totally sure he is all these things because he knows how very lucky HE is for having you too!

  87. Jessica
    February 15, 2012 | 8:51 pm

    Those are all awesome reasons. For the first one about him making you laugh it brought to mind that picture of him in the red pajamas with the cowboy boots and now I'm laughing again. 

  88. Jessica
    February 15, 2012 | 8:51 pm

    Those are all awesome reasons. For the first one about him making you laugh it brought to mind that picture of him in the red pajamas with the cowboy boots and now I'm laughing again. 

  89. Jamidodds10
    February 22, 2012 | 10:04 am

    Marina I love how you can express your feelings through writing. What a talent. I think it's awesome that you still take the time to express how you feel about Elijah. That is I think one of the best way to keep a marriage strong. Keep up the good work!

  90. Jamidodds10
    February 22, 2012 | 10:04 am

    Marina I love how you can express your feelings through writing. What a talent. I think it's awesome that you still take the time to express how you feel about Elijah. That is I think one of the best way to keep a marriage strong. Keep up the good work!