Balance Schmalance

This space has been neglected. Sporadic postings and even less sporadic comments with online friends has left me feeling more than a little guilty about going silent. Part of me feels like I need to explain. Part of me feels like every other blogger, actually every other person, has been here and already understands.

I am having trouble finding balance.

Balance between what’s expected of me and what I expect for myself.

Balance between what I want to and what I must do.

This balance thing is tricky. Just when I think I’ve got everything figured out, something changes, and I’m not one who appreciates change.

Trying to keep my life in balance has left me guilty and depleted. I haven’t been inspired to write and, although whining online brings comfort from friends, it feels overdone and, well…like I’m whining.

So I took a step back. I got offline and left my Twitter feed alone. I caught up on housework, my DVR and spent way too much time lounging around in bed. We took a trip home, celebrated Easter and Amelia’s third birthday.

Surprisingly (or not), taking a break from blogging didn’t help. I need this outlet. I need to have a space to put my thoughts – even my whiny, complainy ones. I missed sharing my adventures and annoyances. I missed reading about what everyone else was up to. I missed this.

I am still trying to get a handle on prioritizing the various demands on my time. I can’t promise to post on a regular schedule because, whether I like it or not, my life is not regular…or scheduled!

But I believe it took stepping back to realize that blogging isn’t something I do as an indulgence. It’s a necessary activity. Spending time on myself, whether to write or visit others who do, doesn’t detract from, but rather helps me maintain, that balance I’m so desperate for.

32 Responses to Balance Schmalance
  1. angela
    April 16, 2012 | 6:40 pm

    Thanks for linking this up with JBE! I think finding balance is one of those things that keeps people awake at night. You said it perfectly when you said just when you think you figure it out, something changes. I think the most important thing is that you use your blog in the way that fits your needs and your life; the people you connect with in that way will understand your schedule, no matter how irregular it may be 🙂

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 17, 2012 | 10:04 am

      Although I’ve been at this for over two years, it still always feels like I’m just getting the hang of things. This community is ever changing and I am constantly trying to adapt. Having places like JBE to post to and get support from is one of the many benefits of blogging. Thank you so much for stopping by!

  2. angela
    April 16, 2012 | 6:40 pm

    Thanks for linking this up with JBE! I think finding balance is one of those things that keeps people awake at night. You said it perfectly when you said just when you think you figure it out, something changes. I think the most important thing is that you use your blog in the way that fits your needs and your life; the people you connect with in that way will understand your schedule, no matter how irregular it may be 🙂

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 17, 2012 | 10:04 am

      Although I’ve been at this for over two years, it still always feels like I’m just getting the hang of things. This community is ever changing and I am constantly trying to adapt. Having places like JBE to post to and get support from is one of the many benefits of blogging. Thank you so much for stopping by!

  3. Kristin
    April 17, 2012 | 5:18 am

    It’s taken me a lot of freaking out to realize the same. I need to write and read, to be part of the blogging community. I still freak out but now I know why.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 17, 2012 | 10:01 am

      It’s so nice when others understand our struggle and can help put words into how we feel. Thank you for your comment, and your visit!

  4. Kristin
    April 17, 2012 | 5:18 am

    It’s taken me a lot of freaking out to realize the same. I need to write and read, to be part of the blogging community. I still freak out but now I know why.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 17, 2012 | 10:01 am

      It’s so nice when others understand our struggle and can help put words into how we feel. Thank you for your comment, and your visit!

  5. Jamie
    April 17, 2012 | 1:00 pm

    I my phone died last week and I haven’t got another one yet. I’ve enjoyed not being on call all the time — but I have blogged and checked social media online. It’s been a mini-break not to be instantaneously checking on things with my phone. I know I need a phone — but I don’t think I need to be as compulsive with it as I was.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:39 am

      I can completely understand the enjoyment that comes from being untethered. Checking my phone has become pretty much compulsive for me. I’ve started leaving it in my car at times just to help me keep myself “in the moment.”

  6. Jamie
    April 17, 2012 | 1:00 pm

    I my phone died last week and I haven’t got another one yet. I’ve enjoyed not being on call all the time — but I have blogged and checked social media online. It’s been a mini-break not to be instantaneously checking on things with my phone. I know I need a phone — but I don’t think I need to be as compulsive with it as I was.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:39 am

      I can completely understand the enjoyment that comes from being untethered. Checking my phone has become pretty much compulsive for me. I’ve started leaving it in my car at times just to help me keep myself “in the moment.”

  7. Kimberly
    April 17, 2012 | 11:56 pm

    Oh that balance. We’re all struggling to get there. I know there are times I need to step back from the online world, but I also know that I need this space too.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:42 am

      You seem to do such a wonderful job keeping up with your online life without sacrificing and your family time. I know I need to schedule my time better but right now it’s just not possible. Instead, I will do what I can and try to let go of the guilt.

  8. Kimberly
    April 17, 2012 | 11:56 pm

    Oh that balance. We’re all struggling to get there. I know there are times I need to step back from the online world, but I also know that I need this space too.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:42 am

      You seem to do such a wonderful job keeping up with your online life without sacrificing and your family time. I know I need to schedule my time better but right now it’s just not possible. Instead, I will do what I can and try to let go of the guilt.

  9. Jessica
    April 18, 2012 | 7:42 am

    I have been stepping back a lot from blogging. It’s really helped me to find more balance in my life. I only post 2-3 times a week now instead of 5-6 and I don’t read blogs everyday and I spend less time on Twitter. It’s helped me a lot.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:46 am

      The fact that you, and many others, have done this makes me feel so much better. I don’t feel like there’s something wrong with me because I can’t post more often and every one else can!

  10. Jessica
    April 18, 2012 | 7:42 am

    I have been stepping back a lot from blogging. It’s really helped me to find more balance in my life. I only post 2-3 times a week now instead of 5-6 and I don’t read blogs everyday and I spend less time on Twitter. It’s helped me a lot.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:46 am

      The fact that you, and many others, have done this makes me feel so much better. I don’t feel like there’s something wrong with me because I can’t post more often and every one else can!

  11. Missy | Literal Mom
    April 18, 2012 | 7:52 am

    I agree with your last paragraph 100% – blogging isn’t something I just do – it’s really important to me and it must be part of the balance. I hope you get the balance you’re looking for. It seems to be a really hard time of year for finding that! Thanks for linking up with JBE.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:48 am

      I have noticed that I’m not the only one posting about this. My theory is that Spring came and we all turned off our computers to enjoy it…then felt guilty about being away!

      I love linking up with JBE, and am so glad it brought you here!

  12. Missy | Literal Mom
    April 18, 2012 | 7:52 am

    I agree with your last paragraph 100% – blogging isn’t something I just do – it’s really important to me and it must be part of the balance. I hope you get the balance you’re looking for. It seems to be a really hard time of year for finding that! Thanks for linking up with JBE.

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:48 am

      I have noticed that I’m not the only one posting about this. My theory is that Spring came and we all turned off our computers to enjoy it…then felt guilty about being away!

      I love linking up with JBE, and am so glad it brought you here!

  13. Jen {at} take2mommy
    April 18, 2012 | 7:53 pm

    I so get this. And I’m glad that you found something in blogging that you love and need to come back to. Don’t worry about posting enough, or taking breaks. Do what works for you. We’ll be here 🙂

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:49 am

      Thank you for such a sweet comment.

      I think if I post less often that just makes it easier for people to catch up with me when they take time off!

  14. Jen {at} take2mommy
    April 18, 2012 | 7:53 pm

    I so get this. And I’m glad that you found something in blogging that you love and need to come back to. Don’t worry about posting enough, or taking breaks. Do what works for you. We’ll be here 🙂

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:49 am

      Thank you for such a sweet comment.

      I think if I post less often that just makes it easier for people to catch up with me when they take time off!

  15. Kelly
    April 19, 2012 | 7:30 am

    It is hard to keep up with the ebb and flow of the blog ocean, isn’t it? Sometimes that little break works wonders. It makes you appreciate it when you come back into the fold.

    😉

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:50 am

      So true. And the reception when you return is just as accepting and kind as it was when you last posted. Bloggers are awesome like that.

      Thank you for coming by and leaving a comment, it totally made my day!

  16. Kelly
    April 19, 2012 | 7:30 am

    It is hard to keep up with the ebb and flow of the blog ocean, isn’t it? Sometimes that little break works wonders. It makes you appreciate it when you come back into the fold.

    😉

    • Miss Marina Star
      April 19, 2012 | 10:50 am

      So true. And the reception when you return is just as accepting and kind as it was when you last posted. Bloggers are awesome like that.

      Thank you for coming by and leaving a comment, it totally made my day!